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Well I must say, this has been the most enjoyable holiday season I have had in a long time.  The chance to get up and see my family and friends for Christmas was very nice indeed.  This year has been a tough year at times for me.  It has also been a very interesting and joyful year at times.

The past year started off with myself finally getting my U.S. Resident status.  Thus the epic job hunt began.  Nightbird and myself also started the year off by looking to purchase a house.  Sadly that never happened, but it is likely for the better at this point seeming as I still can’t find a job.

In February I met up with Kelly, and we hit it off.  The feeling of love was strong and kept me afloat for the next few months.  I became more involved with a clan called FLC on Team Fortress 2 and began running their server.  I became less involved with WoW, eventually quitting all together, only to find out my account was stolen.  I got my account returned, but still have not returned myself.

The adventure into the polyamorous world has been an interesting twist this year.  I must say that it is not as easy as I thought it would be.  I know that this lifestyle rubs a few people the wrong way, but it is what it is.  I do love my wife very much, and I consider myself a lot closer to her now then I was before.

In August I was accepted into the Firehall.  Since then my life has had a bit more direction then it has in the recent past.  I am now a firefighter!  And it gave me an excuse to get out and do things and feel like an active member of society again.  With all that time being devoted towards the firehall, a 2nd relationship (i.e. polyamorous) was taking its toll on me.  I sadly had to break that relationship off    But in the end, I think the outcome was better off for Kelly.     Her and I are still close, and good friends, which I am super happy with.

I ended 2009 with a cold    But I still attended a new years party at the fire hall, then came back home before midnight and worked on setting up a 2nd server for the FLC Clan, as my gift to them.  I still have yet to find a job however, and my hopes are dwindling.  Seriously, if any of you readers here know of a job opening, let me know.

I wish everyone a happy and prosperous 2010!  I hope it will find people in better circumstances across the board.

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On the Weekend of Niagara Doors opened, one hotel is closing its doors to the public.  The Grand Island Holiday Inn will be closing its doors this coming weekend for a swingers convention.  Full story located here.

I just wanted to share my thoughts and respond to many of the comments and protesters out there – even though I know they are set in their ways, and someones opinion will not change their mind.

Some of you forget that the United States is not, or should not be a religious state.  Yes, in ‘God’ we trust – but the definition of ‘God’ is open to interpretation; For some it may mean their parents, i.e. a Creator…  For others it may mean Mother Nature…  And for others it will define a galactic superpower which created everything that we know of.

That being said, I really get sick and tired of christian groups claiming they can somehow overrule that whole ‘free country’ thing we got going on.  Sure, if they were doing it in your Church, or in your homes, or in a public place like a community center, you have every right to be upset.  But a hotel is a business.  Its purpose is to hold conventions and such.  This is normal operating procedure for a hotel.  Whether it be a swingers party, a business convention, a movie shoot, or a high level government meeting.

People (read “swingers”) have every right to engage in any type of sexual act they wish, so long as its willing,  and everyone is of age.  And they have a right to rent out an entire hotel and do the same.  Just because this may go against your religious ideals, does not mean it goes against their religious ideals.  You Christians must realize that religious law only applies to those who are part of that religion, unless we are living in a religious state, which we are not.

This is just another example of how christian groups seem to think that no one is right unless they are abiding by their rules.  This is so far from the truth its not even funny.  Infact it is a bit frightening.  I am much less likely to visit a church now.  I was raised as a Roman Catholic…  And served as an altar boy for several years.  So you really can’t say I haven’t seen both sides.  I have…

To the swingers:   Have Fun!  Wish I could get invited!  Had I known about it previously, I would of been there with my wife.

To the church:  Get your noses out of other peoples lives, and stop trying to press your religious views / laws on everyone in the world.  In a time when the church is loosing popularity, this is a very bad move and will cause more people to turn away from it.  Let them have their fun…   Remember your cardinal sins…  Envy is one of them.  And quite honestly, I think that is the biggest issue at hand here.  If anyone is breaking religious law here, it is you.

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Kelly came down this past weekend.  We ended up staying in a very ghetto hotel.  The hotel manager must of been about 80 years old or so, as he had issues calculating and did not understand about half of what we said.  We ended up getting a room for 2 nights for about under 60 bucks, or there abouts.

The first night we watched Shrek as I had not seen it yet.  We also obviously had some fun

The next morning we woke up and went to IHOP for breakfast.  Then we headed out to Zoar Valley.  We parked at the common entrance point, at forty road and from there we walked towards the confluence.  Walking down stream we did not see many animals, however at the confluence we saw a large catfish which seemed to frighten Kele.  Walking back up stream, we saw a water snake.

We ended up meeting with a few other people coming the other way.  Some of them fairly scantaly clad.  One group were obviously not educated, and did not understand what I ment by ‘confluence’.  The other group warned us of some environmentalist groupies who were blocking off access to the nearby waterfall.

From there we headed back to the Hotel.  That night we went to Red Robins for dinner and watched Madigascar.  I believe we also watched The Rock.

The next morning we slept in, and then went to Tim Hortons for breakfast, on the way to the Buffalo Naval Park, where we toured the ships.  For Kele, it was her first time touring battleships and I believe she had a lot of fun.  I ended up getting into a conversation with a volunteer there about the Aud.

And so ended a fun weekend with Kele.  It was nice to do some real touristy things with her.  I look forward to the next adventure

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Last weekend I went to Letchworth with Kelly.  It was great fun…   I earned a new nick name “The Machine”…

Every time I spend with Kelly is amazing, and it just keeps getting better.   I know I must be careful since I am married.  Alot of the Letchworth weekend was very intimate, so I wont talk about it publically.

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I do not really talk much about Nightbird on here.  Likely because she has her own blog to express her views, and if there is anything we need to discuss, we can do so in real time without having to resort to poetic posts about deep feelings and such

Nightbird and I are best friends.  We have lived with each other for about 4 years now.  We live well together, and the relationship is very stable, open and respectful.

Nightbird and I decided to get married at a very low point in our lives.  We had been there for each other at a very tough time when there was no one there for either of us, it seemed.  To that, I am very grateful to have someone who loves and cares for me as much as she does.  I also love and care for her very deeply.

I never really planned to get married this young.  I always thought I would settle down in my early 30’s or so.  But I grew old fast.  We decided to get married under very harsh circumstances in our lives, this commitment was one I made to a friend, so we would always be there for each other.

Nightbird has helped me grow in many ways.  She has domesticated me to a degree, and has taught me a lot about financial and personal responsibility.  Meanwhile I have been trying to help her overcome her rough childhood and attempting to socialize her.

When Nightbird found a friend who seemed to really care for her, I encouraged her to explore that relationship.  It was a relationship with another female, and it was at this point that we agreed our marriage would be open.  She went and met her friend, and indeed had a lot of fun.  I would stay on the sidelines and offer advice and generally stay out of it unless I was asked my opinion of something.  While I was a little sad to see her go off to visit her friend whenever she went, I was happy that she had found someone she could connect with.

Of course with her meeting someone, it opened the door for me to meet someone.  I however was not in a rush to do this.  I was kind of glad to be out of the dating scene for once, and the thought of finding someone who suited my interests was unbearable.  I continued to befriend people online and generally maintain a distance with anyone I got very close with.

When I met Kelly 2 weekends ago, I really did not know how Nightbird would handle it.  Kelly was very important to me, and had helped me through some difficult times online.  The night Kelly showed up, Nightbird and myself both met her for dinner at Texas Roadhouse.  We had some mutual conversation and when the time came to say goodbye, I kissed Nightbird and we parted ways.  I am not very sure what happened between that point and the time I got home, but I do know that Nightbird was missing me more then ever.

While there was a slight discussion as to why I didn’t email her more then once the entire weekend (it was a road trip, we were driving most of the time), after everything was explained, all was good and she was interested to hear the details of the trip.  I admire Nightbirds strength in this relationship as this situation was likely a very hard one for her to deal with.  Not only does she let me meet with my girlfriend, but she respects Kelly, and enjoys socializing with her in game.

I do not think I appreciate her enough sometimes and I would like this post to try and show how awesome she is, and how very unique she is.  She should never change, and I do love her very much for who she is.  I often take her presence for granted, but I know if I ever lost her, I would be devastated and completely lost myself.

I love you NB

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