Lifestyle

Once I really came to grips with who I am, and where I fit into the world, I began exploring the BDSM Lifestyle.

That being said, I knew that it was a lifestyle which was often misunderstood. Recent changes in the culture, have seemed to change what the BDSM Lifestyle really means to people involved in it.

Part of me wonders why I even need to put a label on myself, or my interests. Can't I just be kinky, and quirky, but still be lovable and sweet? I think labels are there so as to not surprise someone else or spook them in some way. But I did recently write a post about labels and how they tend to close doors. Regardless, below are some posts I wrote, in order to help me understand where I fit in, and in order to help those close to me understand why I have chosen this path. Most of the posts do require the reader to be a logged in registered member of this site however.

Exploration

  • Opening The Door - A post which explores the reasons why I finally caved, and decided to give the Lifestyle a try.
  • BDSM Titles and Roles - A post about the various roles and titles within the community and what they typically imply.
  • What is the Lifestyle? - A post I wrote to try to struggle to explain the dynamics to someone who had no knowledge of the culture.
  • Sarah McLachlan's Sweet Surrender Lyric Deconstruction - Initial Post
  • Sweet Surrender - Song Review (newer post).
  • Advice about 50 Shades vs Real Life D/s - This was some advice I gave to someone who had become interested in lifestyle themed play, based on the story of 50 Shades.
  • SSC and The Lifestyle. - The different sub-cultures within the BDSM community.
  • Objectivism and the Lifestyle - An interesting viewpoint about being objective and into D/s at the same time.
  • Stories and Quotes

  • The Olive Tree - A poem / story about the lifestyle and the relationship between a sub and a Dominant. (Author Unknown)
  • A Slave... - A quote from the Myst Reader.
  • Experiences

  • ...to be a Dom - Some subjective opinions about Doms and Masters in online BDSM sub-culture.
  • The Rescue - A post about whether or not to travel a great distance to rescue someone.
  • Letting Go - A post about about how great relationships, can negatively impact the lives of the world around them. And what sometimes has to be done to return things to a somewhat normal situation.
  • Courting and Dabbling - Why things sometimes don't work out...
  • Lofty Lair - The Lofty Lair is a concept for a multi purpose recreational room, to be built in my Garage.
  • Lofty Lair Update - Updating the reader on the ever evolving plans for the Lofty Lair.